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Honestly, this couldn’t have come at a better time. As a 20 year old who has never had sex and has shamed myself and been shamed by other about it, it’s taken me a long time to see the good in my decision to wait to have sex. I know that I’m still quite young but in the context of an external sense of maturity being measured by sexual and romantic experience, I can’t help but feel juvenile and stuck. But, with a lot of self-reflection and the magic in your words, I can attribute my choice to wait as a way of my body and mind protecting myself in a world that is meant to treat me (a young black woman) as an object. I’m still struggling every day but this post just made my year.

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Thank you so much for this! So eloquently written & insightful. I've had two bouts of (intentional) celibacy, both because I felt like whatever instinct others had for keeping themselves safe I lacked. I grew up Ireland in the nineties/early 2000s when as a country it was moving away from being a Church State (homosexuality was legalised in 1993 the year after I was born!) but there were, at that point, no positive role models of how to be a happy, sexually empowered queer Irish person. Thankfully, things are much better now! You're a wonderful writer & I love your podcast too! Best of luck in this new & unfolding chapter!!

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This was such a beautiful read. We are honoured to witness your vulnerability and share in a small part of your journey. You seem to always be running towards and embracing love in everything you do. I wish for you a future filled with love in all its forms, where you are cherished and nurtured. Xx

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